Asoebi Things
Wow...so girlfriend was officially off the market. She has been taken. Her wedding was close by. As the custom demands, she was to start sending I.Vs and principally sell asoebi.
Now for those who do not understand what asoebi is(for my international audience).Asoebi is the cloth(uniform attire) used in weddings to show belonging. It comes in different colours, brands and material.s It depends on the intending couple. Asoebi is a serious matter in this part of the world.
Back to my story,girlfriend brought her asoebi for me to buy. How much does it cost? Well... I did not know how to politely turn down the offer.Apparently the asoebi was attached to the I.V because they both came along.It was even stated in the message girlfriend had sent earlier on.Meaning that if you do not buy the asoebi,you do not get the I.V.
The issue of asoebi has become overrated. At times some brides buy cheap material and sell it expensively to exploit their buyers. Other times, the brides put undue pressure on those who did not have budget for asoebi in their finances. If someone has pressing demands and in a month, the person has four weddings to go. That means he/she would have to buy four asoebis. So after receiving ones salary, one has to devout part or all to buy asoebi in other to please their friends about to wed.
Now, asoebi is not a bad thing though. It adds colour to the wedding ceremony. It also brings uniformity. Asoebi creates a form of identity on the side of the groom or bride. Those on asoebi at the wedding ceremony are treated as V.I.Ps.They receive special souvenirs. It is source of revenue for couple in question.We all know it not child's play to organise a wedding. Selling of asoebi is one of the ways to make up for wedding costs.
However, asoebi puts undue pressure on the buyer. In situations where the buyer can not afford the asoebi, the bride should accept the buyers apology with love and not contempt. Buyers should cut their coat to their sizes. Better still, they could look for something similar with colour of the day to wear at the wedding than running in to debt.
The wedding is all about the bride and groom.There are other ways to show support and love to grace the wedding occasion. Physical presence,prayers, gifts, wedding assistance,cash rewards,wedding coordination are ways to show support to the couple. It must not neccesarily be buying asoebi.
I am happy that my girlfriend is tying the knot. The last thing I wanna do is to rob Peter to pay Paul because I want to buy asoebi or be a people pleaser. That's just by the way if the invitation comes then I would honor the invitation and if it doesn't come because of the condition of asoebi then I would let it pass. It would not prevent me from extending my goodwill and heartfelt prayers for the wedding.
Let's not overrate asoebi. It should not be a must particularly if it is not in the buyers budget.
N.B-My wedding is coming up so prepare to buy asoebi*Winks*
Wanna apologise for taking a break,was putting things together to serve you better.
Happy New Year and I pray its a fulfilling year for us all*LOve y'all
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